“You and you alone will know your relationship or marriage, and it is in difficulty or comes to an end, only you can make the heart-wrenching decisions that may bring with them more heartache and pain in the early stages.
So many people are influenced by relatives or friends who try and persuade you in to staying, often ‘for the sake of the children’ or because they they think they have your best interests at heart, know what is best for you and don’t want to see you suffer. Rash decisions are often made in times of stress – decisions you often regret later, or decisions that will lead to anger and resentment if you stay for the wrong reasons. Children are not fools – they pick up on anxiety and unhappiness within a family. It is far better to have two parents who are separated with happy children moving freely between them, than parents at war or living in unhappy circumstances.
You will need to take time and expert advice as to all of your options, what will happen when you do leave or your partner leaves? What will happen if you stay or your partner stays? What are the financial consequences? How will the children deal with the situation? where will we all live; how can I manage financially; how can I stop the abuse or controlling behaviour; what will happened about the pensions; child support? – all the many questions that go around and around in your head and you don’t know what you can do without any of it.
During the breakdown of any relationship, fear, anxiety and heartbreak are often in the forefront of your mind. Your life is suddenly thrust on a roller coaster of emotions and you have to deal with the separation and the effect it is having, not just upon you but also the rest of your family.
Whatever you decide, you need expert help and advice – it can be a short or long journey but here at Lowe’s Solicitors we will support you all the way, offering expert advice, while you make the ultimate decisions that will affect your life. No matter where you live we can help.